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How it works

Seven steps from registration to the first family meeting — and the request system that sits at the centre of it.

  1. Create your profile

    Register with your name, date of birth, city, mobile and email. The full form covers religious details, caste, education, profession, family background and what you are looking for. It takes about ten minutes to complete properly.

  2. Upload your photographs

    Up to six photographs. They are stored encrypted and never appear publicly. On your own profile card they show as a locked panel, which is what every other member sees.

  3. Verify your identity

    Every member confirms their email address with a code we send. Nothing else is required, and nothing else is checked. We would rather tell you that plainly than sell you a badge implying we have investigated anybody.

  4. Activate your membership

    During the launch period this is free. Afterwards it is Rs 3,000 for 90 days and 10 connection tokens, paid by card, JazzCash, Easypaisa or bank account on our payment provider's secure page. The membership activates the moment the payment succeeds, with no waiting and no admin approval. Buy again at any time for a fresh 10 tokens and a fresh 90 days.

  5. Search and shortlist

    Filter by gender, age, city, country, caste, sect, education, profession, marital status and residency. Shortlist the profiles worth a second look.

  6. Send a request

    Two request types only: Request photos and Request WhatsApp number. You can attach a short note of up to 200 characters — one time, not a conversation. The other member sees your full profile before deciding.

  7. They accept, and you continue on WhatsApp

    On accept, photos unlock for you alone and the number is released. Everything after that happens between the two families, off this platform. On decline, nothing is shared and you are simply told it was not accepted.

THE REQUEST SYSTEM

What a request actually does

A request is a one-time ask, not an opening message. It cannot be used to send repeated notes, and it cannot be used to contact somebody who has already declined you.

  • Pending requests expire automatically after seven days.
  • A declined profile cannot be re-requested for thirty days.
  • Daily request limits apply by package, to stop bulk sending.
  • Unlocked photographs are watermarked with the viewer's member ID.
  • You can revoke previously granted access at any time.
  • Every accept, decline and view is logged.
Request and accept flow
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What is visible, and what is not

DetailBefore acceptanceAfter acceptance
Age, height, city, countryVisibleVisible
Caste, sect, mother tongueVisibleVisible
Education, profession, employer typeVisibleVisible
Family background, siblings, partner preferencesVisibleVisible
Marital status and childrenVisibleVisible
PhotographsHiddenUnlocked for that member only
WhatsApp / phone numberHiddenReleased to that member only
Full nameFirst name and initial onlyFull name
Exact address, emailNever shownNever shown

The guardian option

Many families prefer that the first contact does not go to the candidate directly. When you build your profile you can nominate a guardian — your father, brother, mother or uncle — and it is their number that gets released on acceptance, not yours.

The profile shows "Guardian contact: Father" so the other side knows what to expect. This is one of the most used settings on the site, and we would encourage it for any family that has hesitated about going online at all.

Begin the search with your family beside you

Free to publish a profile during launch. Photographs and contact numbers stay yours until you decide otherwise.

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